How to Prepare for a Mediation with Family Court Services in Marin County

If you’re scheduled for Family Court Mediation through Family Court Services (FCS) in Marin County, you’re likely wondering what to expect and how to best prepare—especially when your child’s future is at stake. The more informed and focused you are going into the session, the better chance you have of reaching a workable parenting plan.
This post covers what you need to know about preparing for mediation in child custody and visitation matters in Marin County.
 
Understanding Family Court Services Mediation in Marin County
When parents cannot agree on child custody or visitation, the Marin County Superior Court requires them to attend mediation with Family Court Services before their court hearing.
Unlike some California counties, Marin is a recommending county, which means:

• The mediation is not confidential.
• If the parents do not reach an agreement, the mediator will prepare a written recommendation to the judge regarding custody and visitation.
• If the parents do reach an agreement, that agreement is typically adopted by the court.

What Does the Mediator Do?
The mediator is a neutral, trained professional—usually with a background in mental health or social work—whose job is to help parents discuss custody and parenting time and try to reach an agreement. If no agreement is reached, the mediator's recommendation carries significant weight and is reviewed by the judge at the hearing.
 
How to Prepare for Mediation
1. Stay Focused on the Children

• The mediation is not about the past relationship or personal grievances.
• Always keep the focus on what is in the best interests of your child—their emotional well-being, stability, safety, and daily needs.

2. Be Honest and Respectful

• The mediator will be writing a report to the judge, so it’s important to be honest, respectful, and thoughtful in your communication.
• Avoid inflammatory language or making accusations without evidence.

3. Come with a Parenting Plan in Mind

• Think about what custody and visitation schedule works best for your child.
• Consider school schedules, extracurricular activities, holidays, and transitions between homes.
• Be prepared to explain why your proposed schedule supports your child’s best interests.

 
Helpful Things to Bring or Prepare

• A sample parenting schedule, including weekdays, weekends, holidays, and vacations
• Your work schedule and any child care arrangements
• Information about your child’s educational, medical, and emotional needs
• Notes about any safety concerns or past co-parenting challenges
• Ideas for communication tools (like OurFamilyWizard) if needed
• Check Local Rules, in Marin all documents must be submitted 2 business days in advance.

 
Tips for the Day of Mediation

• Be on time: Whether your session is in person or via Zoom, arrive early and prepared.
• Dress appropriately: This is a formal court process—even if done remotely.
• Take notes: You may want to write down key points discussed during the session.
• Do not bring your children: Children are not allowed in mediation sessions, but depending on your child’s age, the Mediator may ask to speak to your child after speaking with both parents.

 
After Mediation: What Happens Next?

• If you and the other parent reach an agreement, the mediator will prepare a written agreement and submit it to the court for the judge’s approval.
• If you do not reach an agreement, the mediator will submit a formal recommendation to the judge, which the court will review at your upcoming hearing.
• You or your attorney will have an opportunity to object to the recommendation or propose alternatives at the hearing.

 
Final Thoughts
Family Court Services mediation in Marin County is a key step in resolving custody and visitation issues. Because the mediator’s recommendation can heavily influence the judge’s decision, it’s critical to be prepared, child-focused, and respectful throughout the process.
If you have questions about the mediation process or want guidance to prepare effectively, I encourage you to reach out. With the right preparation and support, you can help protect your child’s well-being and move toward a stable, workable parenting arrangement.
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